I have been going to a therapist for a few weeks now. Dr. Lawson is a breathe of fresh air and so knowledgeable about mental illness! When it comes to relationships and dating and mental illness, there are a lot of unhealed people walking around in this world! You have to be extremely careful and I’m not trying to single out men but sometimes they have things going on with them medically and mentally and afraid to get the proper care. Some of them unfortunately, are looking for caregivers. If you google this type of behavior, it’s all over the internet right now! It’s called, “Hospice Wife“.
Instead of coming clean about what is really going on, some men try to “love bomb” you and hopefully you don’t pay attention to their illness, while they try to distract you from the real problem. You will hopefully not pay attention to their sickness or mental illness that they may have! I have got tons of emails and messages from friends and followers telling me about their dating nightmares and how men have tried to rush them into marriage then later they find out they have a serious illness that they didn’t disclose.
I think it’s really unfair and not very kind to mislead someone when you know there is something going on with you. You are literally trying to have someone take on a huge responsibility that they may not want to sign up for! I think you should give the other person an option instead of being deceitful. I get it that you may not want to go down that journey alone or may think that the person will walk away but that’s the chance you take. Some women are now stuck in miserable relationships/marriages and taking on such a heavy load.
My therapist Dr. Lawson sent me a kind email and I thought to share what she said with you…
Therapy is not a quick process. Depression is sadness, hopelessness, lack of energy, lack of motivation. Depression can surface via lack of sleep, sleeping too much. Overeating, not eating. Wake up every morning and ensure you are getting dressed and taking care of yourself. It is good that you engage with people. Try not to isolate from people. Be sure to get some sun on your face.
First up, let’s take a peek inside at Paranoid Schizophrenia. The mental illness can be treated with medication but the person has to be willing to take their meds, eat healthy etc. More inside…
In schizophrenia, paranoia usually takes the form of delusions, hallucinations, or some combination of the two. For example, a person living with schizophrenia may believe they’re being pursued by law enforcement or that someone is trying to control them through their television or radio.
The exact causes of schizophrenia are unknown. Research suggests a combination of physical, genetic, psychological and environmental factors can make a person more likely to develop the condition. Some people may be prone to schizophrenia, and a stressful or emotional life event might trigger a psychotic episode.
- Seeing, hearing, or tasting things that others do not.
- Suspiciousness and a general fear of others’ intentions.
- Persistent, unusual thoughts or beliefs.
- Difficulty thinking clearly.
- Withdrawing from family or friends.
- A significant decline in self-care.
- Disorganised thinking.
- Lack of motivation.
- Slow movement.
- Change in sleep patterns.
- Poor grooming or hygiene.
- Changes in body language and emotions.
5 tips for handling a schizophrenia crisis
- Remember that you cannot reason with acute psychosis.
- The person may be terrified by their own feelings of loss of control.
- Don’t express irritation or anger.
- Speak quietly and calmly, do not shout or threaten the person.
- Don’t use sarcasm as a weapon.
Sidenote: I wanted people to be highly aware and prioritize their mental health. I’m in therapy now and it is the best thing I could have done for myself. My therapist Dr. Lawsom told me there are so many unhealed people out in the world who don’t want help. She also gave me this website for those interested in getting help. It’s www.psychologytoday.com. You can find someone in your area. Type in your zip code and insurance. Till next time!